Edit: in response to your edits: 1) I'll find her attractive if she is attractive.

2) No, if I find her unattractive, her approaching me won't make her attractive.

That being said when people tell girls that they are intimidating it is usually because they have taken on more male social attributes or that they are quite simply bitches.

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I have two teenage kids (a boy and a girl), not yet dating, so the question of high-school-aged relationships has been on my mind lately.

My remark about age was coming more from the perspective of developmental psychology, plus how college puts you into contact with a larger pool of compatible people.

Was reacting to your guys that age are really really insecure and afraid of rejection comment.

Assumed your next comment was related, it wasn't.

1Unattractive women claim men find them intimidating in order to shift the problem on to them, "he can't handle me because he isn't a strong, real man! ", when the reality is that nope, I'm not intimidated, I just think you are unattractive.

I don't When I say a girl is intimidating, it means she is very attractive.

I get jumpy anytime young men are portrayed in a negative light and older men are preferred.

I think it's a very ignored facet of sexism that has much broader and deeper effects than most will admit. I didn't intend for my comment to be read that way.

I was just searching some stuff in the Ask Gender related subreddits in relation to men that find women intimidating, because i have been told i come off as intimidating.

There were a range of answers but a few times i saw people implying that if a guy thinks you're "intimidating", then it means he is not attracted to you. EDIT: if it makes any difference i'm 17 years old and the people that have told me i'm intimidating are generally around my age EDIT 2: also, if you thought a girl was intimidating or unapproachable or whatever, and then she approached YOU instead: would you, 1) find her unattractive BECAUSE she's intimidating2)if you DID find her unattractive, would HER approaching YOU change your opinion that she is unattractive When I say I find a girl intimidating, I think I actually mean that she's unapproachable or unobtainable. A high school kid thinks the hottest girl in school is intimidating, because he doesn't think he's as attractive as her, and he'd never have a chance with her.

Once you go out in the world and the other guys aren't around anymore, you aren't as intimidated in that respect. You got more attention because of numbers and the fact you have similar interests than guys growing up, being more confident, and casting away their insecurities.