After a romantic relationship ends, sometimes you’re ready to get back on the market ASAP..other times you'd rather gouge your own eyes out than start swiping through Tinder again (too far? The same is true after a divorce—if and when you start dating again is a totally individual choice, and there’s no right way to go about it.To illustrate how much the timeframe can vary, we talked to nine women about how long it took them to take that scary leap of faith.

I didn’t want to repeat some of those negative actions in my new relationship.” —“I got divorced about nine years ago, and I started dating as soon as I got divorced. I think when you’re the one filing and you want to get divorced, it can be an empowering time.

Seeing myself through someone else’s eyes was a breath of fresh air.

When I had initially gotten on Tinder, that was more about instant validation.

I have a kid, and I’m at a place now where I really want to thoroughly vet someone before I got out with them.

Have you ever watched your odometer click over from 1999 to 2000? At least equally powerful a motivation was that the year 2000 was the end of the Y2K scare, when we expected that a computer time coding issue would cause the end of civilization as we know it.

Officially, according to the current dating system — which has been in use for simply ages — dates started with Year 1 or AD 1, You would think so, except of course, they weren’t using the current Gregorian Calendar that we now use, rather the Julian Calendar, named after that famous Roman Julius Caesar who subsequently got a month named after him.

“I got on Tinder right away, because I had found out my ex-husband cheated on me.

I didn’t actually go on a date, though, until about four to five months after my divorce was finalized.

It ended up being a total disaster—the guy was criticizing how I ate pizza—so I had to cut that nightmare short and have a friend come pick me up.

Another date I found out the guy was on probation, so it hasn’t been great yet. It gave me more time to get to a better place mentally and emotionally and sort through and address the feelings I was having.

I was unhappy in my marriage, so to go from that to having someone treating you kindly and complimenting you was so nice.