To him, the approach of school days was like a monster that threatened him and wanted to squash him. I tried to lift his spirits, to distract him, convince him it was not as bad as it seemed, but in vain.

Then I hit upon the idea of offering him something that is almost taboo in our family: French fries at a fast-food place. Emilio's reply ought to be chiseled in stone: "Dad, you don't solve problems with french fries."Touche.

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Goodrich, tags: compassion, endurance, external, friends, friendship, happiness, hardship, heaviness, help, hope, inspirational, internal-validation, joy, life, life-lessons, love, loyalty, motivational, persistence, personal-development, poetry, presence, sad, self-love, teaching, unconditional, validation, wisdom tags: amy-leigh-mercree, amy-leigh-mercree-quotes, happiness-quotes, inspirational-quotes, quote-about-life, quote-of-the-day, quote-of-the-week, quotes-de-la-vida, quotes-for-instagram, quotes-tumblr, quotes-twitter, self-acceptance, self-love, the-compassion-revolution, true-happiness, validation “Life is fundamentally a mental state. Whose life is truer, the rational man of action pursuing practical goals of personal happiness and wealth or the philosophic man who lives in a world of theoretical and metaphysical ideas?

We ascribe the value quotient to our lives by making decisions that we score as either valid or invalid based upon our personal ethics and how we think and behave.” ― Kilroy J.

Frankly, if you are the friend or family member of someone with BPD, it can be very hard to have a validating response to emotions that seem out of proportion with the situation.

But invalidating your loved one’s response probably doesn’t help.

Rather, you communicate to them that you understand what they are feeling, without trying to talk them out of the feeling or shame them for the feeling.

When you validate an emotional response, the first step is to acknowledge the emotion that the other person is having.

tags: being-single, dating, goals, hard-to-get, holding-out-for-the-best, love, loving-yourself, not-settling, playing-hard-to-get, positive-thinking, relationships, single, single-life, single-woman, singleness, standards, the-single-woman, validation “Trauma is personal. When it is ignored or invalidated the silent screams continue internally heard only by the one held captive.

When someone enters the pain and hears the screams healing can begin.” ― Danielle Bernock, tags: captive, childhood-trauma, emotional-abuse, freedom, healing, healing-the-emotional-self, invalidate, lies, love, love-heals, marginalized, pain, ptsd, screams, screams-of-agony, silent-pain, trauma, validation tags: acceptance, believe-in-yourself, eating-disorder-recovery, feelings, focus-on-positive, love-yourself, mantra, mental-health, mindfulness, no-judgment, one-step-at-a-time, positive-quotes, positive-thinking, present-moments, recovery, repeat, self-help, self-improvement, self-love, thoughts, validation, you-are-enough, you-are-important “The most powerful and courageous heroes I know are those who bite their tongues when justification, validation, temptation, or vengeance would have them strike with truthful, hurtful words.” ― Richelle E.

Emotional validation is the process of learning about, understanding and expressing acceptance of another person’s emotional experience.

Emotional validation is distinguished from emotional invalidation, in which another person’s emotional experiences are rejected, ignored, or judged.

It not only does not harm the other person, but it also does not harm one's own self.” ― Dada Bhagwan, “One of the main problems for anyone working in health care, social work or addiction treatment is the struggle to hold on to some version of a safe world for ourselves when we are seeing the evidence and hearing the stories of trauma that offer other important and disturbing information: that the world, for very many people, is not a safe place.” ― Linde Zingaro “Being trauma informed must include respecting and honouring the fact that what is learned from the experience of trauma is a kind of knowledge, in the same way that what we learn about trauma is knowledge. The quality our group valued most was what the Germans call Stimmung, and besides this, the power of suggestion and dramatic force.