It is like friendship set on fire: an instant, deep resonance that consumes us with its fierce, relentless flame of truth, passion and unconditional love.

As human beings, we are born with an innate need to belong, to be loved and to find our own place in this world.

This search for a deeper connection and belonging sparks in us the remembrance of our true spiritual nature through experiences of love and connection with something greater than us.

It is a process where all our ideas about love, life and our self are totally picked apart and reconstructed.

The twin flame connection is first and foremost a spiritual connection given to us to aid our Soul’s evolution and a shared spiritual mission here on earth.

Our Twin is often unlike anyone we have ever been with or would usually be attracted to.

We may be at a loss as to what exactly it is that we find so attractive in them since they are definitively “not our type”.

I was trying to understand what it was that I felt for this man I hardly knew in the usual sense of the word; yet whom I would have trusted with my life, my children, my all, from the first day we met.

I started seeing things differently, identifying behaviors and patterns, and sharing it all with him out of some “necessity” to dig very deep within me; like I needed to show him everything about me, perhaps to get to the real me buried underneath it all.

What’s more, we find ourselves confused and thrown off track because the connection involves such a wide array of human emotions, including those of a friend, lover, parent, child, teacher, student & many more – and these can all be felt separately or together in endless combinations.

We expect to feel giddy with excitement with butterflies in our stomachs but instead we feel the deep pride of a mother one moment, and the love of a sister for her dear brother the next, followed by an unmistakable sexual pull towards them.

The thing is; the co-dependency of this kind of unrealistic “love” keeps us from growing into a whole person, whereas true love is the acceptance of the fact that our lover is not perfect and neither are we.