Twenty lds rules for celestial dating
To fail to understand that is to have fallen prey to one of Satan's biggest lies. Had David turned away his head and not invited Bathsheba to his home, he likely would be exalted today. kissing would be saved at least until these later hallowed courtship days when they could be free from sex and have holy meaning." In an address delivered to RETURNED MISSIONARIES (not high school-aged people, but those in the courting years), President Kimball said, " . Necking and petting are lustful; they are not love . Now remember these things." (Quotes in order: The Miracle of Forgiveness p. 231; An address delivered by Elder Spencer Kimball Jan. A French kiss is the "Hollywood" kiss that President Kimball described above. The prophet, President Kimball, tells us that, "in interviewing repenting young folks, as well as some older ones, I am frequently told that the couple met their defeat in the dark, at late hours, in secluded areas …the car was most often the confessed seat of the difficulty, It became their brothel." BEWARE. If you are in a home or apartment with others and they slowly all leave except for you and your partner, then ONE OF YOU should leave at that time also! Now, please never go to bars--even just to dance or listen to the music. Be aware of this and the environment that is associated with your children's other activities. If your child is invited to a party at a friend's home, don't "assume" it will be chaperoned. (By the way, just because parents are home doesn't mean they are "chaperoning." There are too many parties where parents are upstairs watching TV while the young people are in a dark basement dancing and making out in the corners!
It is virtually impossible to set them in the middle of a passion-filled night. If you want the help of the Lord and his blessings, follow his counsel. DO NOT THINK THAT YOU ARE THE EXCEPTION TO THESE RULES. On cold winter days, after interviewing a young lady in the Institute building, I would drive back to work and pass her on the road as she walked back to the dorm. Don't ever think, "Oh, I would never do that so it is okay if I go into an apartment alone, or park, or whatever." This is an open invitation to Satan to prove you wrong! The biggest error of all is to think that you are an exception to one of these rules.
To go on a date without a plan may sound harmless, or even exciting, but it can lead to trouble very easily. Set the stops now while your minds are clear and unhampered by emotions. even for what may seem to be the best young man or woman you have ever known!
Know exactly what you are going to do on a date before you go. As you date, especially with those you really like, discuss these rules and your standards so that you each understand what you expect from yourself and your relationship with each other.
You must have firmly planted in your mind right from wrong, and do not let ANYONE talk you into anything that would not meet the Savior's approval.
Each partner should be responsible for his own actions. Yet, after many hundreds of hours of interviews, it became obvious that those who had fallen into transgression, had simply made some common errors. The Lord does not instruct us to do missionary work in romantic relationships. Not only do these improper relations often lead to fornication, pregnancy, and abortions---all ugly sins---but in and of themselves they are pernicious evils . ALL looked well in the mirror as they stood there with shoulders back and standing up straight.
Surely such a question would require a very complicated answer. DO NOT take the chance of dating nonmembers, or members who are untrained and faithless: Do not rationalize this by saying that you are doing missionary work. among the most common sexual sins our young people commit are necking and petting. " Necking or making out, the kissing-hugging session, is wrong IN AND OF ITSELF, not just because it may lead to something worse, I am not saying that there isn't a proper time in dating relationship to kiss. We cannot overemphasize immodesty as one of the pitfalls to be avoided if we would shun temptation and keep ourselves clean." On occasions, I have found young ladies who wore things which were immodest and did not realize it. Can we say that God has been with us as much as He was with David in his youth? I have asked myself time and time again why some fall and others do not. When your children leave your home, you should always know where they are going, who they will be with, where you can contact them if necessary, and when you can expect them back! Girls, immodest clothing includes two-piece swimming suits or ones with low necklines and french-cut sides, halter tops, short shorts, tight-fitting clothes, short skirts, low necklines, etc. (Even in the summer.) President Kimball tells us that those who do not actively resist the evil influence of immodesty will "absorb and foster it." He goes on to say, "I see some of our LDS mothers, wives, and daughters wearing dresses extreme and suggestive in style. I wonder if our sisters realize the temptation they are flaunting before men when they leave their bodies partly uncovered or dress in tight-fitting, body-revealing, form-fitting sweaters … Celestial Dating "Listening to the Words of the Prophets" Preface to parents and young adults: David of old, choice in the sight of God, allowed his eternal soul to fall into the depths of hell. I have looked into the tear-filled, sorrowful eyes of too many good latter-day saint youth involved in moral transgressions not to know how easy it is to fall. Often I have found that a couple originally parked to discuss a problem or work out an argument—not to make out—however, after the problem was resolved, they kissed to make-up and things developed from there. DO NOT underestimate the power of Satan to use your natural drives, if you place yourself in a vulnerable position enough times YOU WILL FALL. If you frequent bars, you will fall into serious transgressions. ) Don't assume that the video movie at the Sunday School party will be appropriate--know what is going to be shown before you accept the invitation. Dress that is modest and becoming an LDS young man or young lady is most important at all times and is most important when dating. President Kimball put it this way: "The secret of the good life is in protection and prevention. or, unless your parents approve of the kind of young man or lady . When he is returned from his mission at 21, he should feel free to begin to get acquainted and to date." He tells us further that, ". NEVER be the cause of a young man deciding to stay home for any reason, for you will be held accountable! Girls, as hard as it may be, search until you can find a modest swimming suit or make your own! Dating in groups is not only safer, but you will find that it is much more enjoyable. Most proper functions will end in time for you to go straight home and be in on time. Following many interviews, it became apparent, that the key to maintaining moral chastity was in preventive action. or, unless you will be missing the Sophomore Prom." 2. President Kimball advises, "Everyboy should have been saving money for his mission and be free from any and all entanglements so he will be worthy. one can have all the blessings if he is in control and takes the experiences in proper turn, first some limited social get-acquainted contacts, then his mission, then his courting, then his temple marriage and his schooling and his family, then his life's work," A word to you young ladies of the church: You should always encourage a young man to fulfill his mission. I do not believe that the Lord would expect the choice young people of His Church to find their eternal mates among nonmembers or inactive members! He would not ask us to go against both His Counsel through the ages or against the counsel of his prophets. How unfortunate that any LDS girl would own a swimming suit that she could not use for LDS functions. Even after the age of 18, it is desirable to date in couples or groups. We should be in from our dates by (college age) and (high school age) or sooner. Where you are, who you are with, where you are going, what you are doing, and what time you are doing it, are all controlled by you, and will help or hinder you. NO MISSIONARY WORK ONE-ON-ONE WITH MEMBERS OF THE OPPOSITE SEX. We are grateful for them; however, for every success story, there are numerous tragic stories of members and nonmembers alike being hurt by such, have the faith to follow the prophet in this most important matter. After that occasion, I had to announce for the girls to wear a T-shirt over their suits at future ward parties.