If this article helps you or has kept you from becoming the victim of a scam (or sending him even more money), please consider donating to help maintain this website so that others will be able to utilize this information as well. It’s true that special ops guys can’t discuss their job but that also means they don’t tell random strangers they’re in special ops. When we would go out with a bunch of guys from his unit and people would ask what they did, they simply replied they were in the Army. They’re known as “quiet professionals” for a reason. He has been deployed for two years, has been denied leave time and will not be coming home any time soon therefore you won’t be able to meet. He is on a top secret mission in a country other than Iraq or Afghanistan (or even in Iraq or Afghanistan – it’s all lies).

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Nine times out of ten, they “met” their soldier on a social networking site, such as Facebook, or an online dating site.

********** UPDATE: Two women were prosecuted for receiving over one million dollars from 374 people in these scams! Since starting the website in 2004, I have received many emails from people who believe they are dating a soldier when, in most cases, they actually are not.

I had a c-section and was in the hospital in a private room for three days. They may very well be using the picture of a real soldier but that doesn’t mean you’re talking to him. I’ve seen very badly doctored military ID cards where it’s obvious he’s typed over information on the card.

Some of these scumbags are using the pictures of soldiers who were killed in action to run their scams. Someone told me once they were dating a General and she even had pictures. What’s funny is he’ll type over the only legitimate information on the card and replace it with something that makes no sense. The pictures they use many times on military IDs are so fake and it’s so obvious.

If all an Army spouse had to do was email her soldier’s commander to get him home from deployment, don’t you think ALL Army spouses would be doing this? The Army does not allow leave requests from Army family members. There are ATMs on any main post and the PX accepts debit and credit cards. Last time I checked we aren’t on a lot of peacekeeping missions in Nigeria and Syria.

In fact, even in the case of the death of an immediate family member, the information has to be verified by the American Red Cross before the soldier’s command is contacted for possible leave by officials at the Red Cross – they don’t just take your word for it. He wants you to pay for a phone line, cell phone or calling card so you can talk to each other. My husband deployed multiple times and we never paid for a single phone call. Not to mention, soldiers are making enough to buy a phone card if they really had to. He’s about to retire and then he can marry you and live happily ever after. LOL A General will have well over 20 years of service and less than 1% of officers will make it to the rank of General. If he says he’s somewhere that there isn’t an ATM or another way to get money, there is also nothing for him to spend money on. And if we were, a real soldier wouldn’t tell you that. I originally had other questions you could ask regarding his training, etc, but I’m removing those because many people believed whatever ridiculous information he came up with when they asked.

Then the supposed CO sends back a letter asking for money to connect a phone line or some other complete lie. He says one of the following…parents died, his wife died in his arms, his wife was killed in a car accident along with all of his children, his children are orphaned and living in some remote location, or he was orphaned……all LIES. And I mean if this was for real and that kind of luck follows him, why do you want to be with him? He says he doesn’t have a mailing address because either he is in a classified unit or his position changes so often.

Even in special operations, he’ll have an APO address.

And you don’t have to send it through a relative because he can’t give out his address. He says he needs you to pay for his R&R leave because the Army doesn’t pay for it. A real soldier will not request money to travel home as he doesn’t need it!

The Army pays for all travel to and from a war zone.

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