This may lead to frustration in the other partner at his/her partner’s unwillingness to experiment.

At christianblogs.christianet.com, a confused woman asks this very question. In my experience, I have both initiated sexually explicit language in the bedroom, and also willingly went along with it when my husband started it.

“Talk dirty to me.” Whether whispered or shouted, these four words spoken in the bedroom can cause a variety of reactions.

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Consider those persons who want to try it during sex play, to see if it adds some excitement to the routine, but are unsure of how their partner will react.

An article on Ask gives this advice: “It’s better to be safe than sorry so I strongly recommend that you start out by saying tamer things and with tamer language…and slowly moving on to the cruder lingo in time.” This indicates that, from a man’s point of view, although perhaps the woman has instigated the dirty talk session, she doesn’t really want to hear something hardcore right off the bat.

Even the most shy ladies can pull off saying those phrases without feeling uncomfortable.

Many guys actually like getting some form of direction and if you utter the three aforementioned phrases, he’s not only going to take it as you giving him insight about what to do, but also as a sign he’s doing the right thing.

“My husband has commented that he wants me to talk dirty to him while we are intimate. Though we do not always incorporate this into our intimacy, I find that when we do our experience becomes instantly hotter and more erotic; perhaps due to the fact that saying such things out loud feels so deliciously wicked.

It is human nature to want what we can’t have, and to want to do what we are not allowed to do.

A gender difference sometimes seems to play a part in whether sexually explicit language is a turn-on or turn-off; it is generally accepted that men are the ones who enjoy it more, perhaps because women are supposed to be more “pure.” More importantly, though, are the values, level of sexual experience, and even personal self confidence of an individual that dictates whether or not someone enjoys it.

Barring personal preference, it is a subject of some controversy and even fear.

If you’re ready to do a little dirty talk, here are 10 ways to go about it that won’t make you feel ridiculous.

If you feel strange about jumping right into the dirty talk in person, start off slow by talking dirty via text.

In the context of a normal day, sexually explicit language is simply not permissible in society, and perhaps that is why we find it so arousing.