No one person can or should fully satisfy all your social needs, and it’s unfair to expect something like that from them.Career or academic advancement will keep you busy and encouraged to grow and will also earn you lots of points with any quality partner as ambition is very attractive.

when my fiance needs something from me that actually makes sense, or a customer who needs some small task that they would actually pay for.

Watching other people (esp my fiance) saying "no" ever so gently has me wondering how easy life could be if I were able to do the same.

The reason that being needy and clingy is so unattractive is obvious: first, it makes the other person take you for granted and not see any value in you.

If you are always around, always available, and you schedule your life around your partner all the time, this means that no effort is required to please you or to be loved by you.

You are being extremely nice, excessively accommodating and very careful with your partner.

You also want to keep him/her from being exposed to and/or seduced by other people, so you try to spend as much time together as possible, all of which is likely to be perceived by your partner as being clingy.So, how do you handle you become less needy and clingy with your partner?Maintain and actively pursue new and old hobbies and personal interests and make sure that your social life remains active with a circle of friends and you don’t just wait for your partner to call you or come home and rescue you from feeling lonely and bored.This doesn’t mean that you have to take your work life to the extreme and stay at the office till midnight or not returning his/her calls.It simply means that you should not abandon your plans and goals on the account of your relationship as the above should complement each other rather than be each other’s obstacles.This applies to just about any aspect of life, and dating is not an exception of course.