"It has been suggested to me as a potential route," she said."But lesbians are very relationship-driven; you don't go to your own corner in a lesbian relationship."I don't think I necessarily want to get married, but now, going into the next few decades, it would be great to have someone to be with," she said.

I've been on Tinder, where I'll only go out with someone if we have Facebook friends in common.

"When you're in your 20s, you are evaluating who can be a good father or provider.

"I would like to be in a real relationship, but I can't quite envision how it would work in my life," she said. I need to know that he somehow has an intellectual interest and likes discussing things — essentially, a smart Jew. All JDate has is a bunch of Israeli contractors who live in Encino; that would be interesting and fun, but not someone who would fit in my life. Nobody has anyone who matches me." I asked Celia if she thought those men who do meet her criteria were being taken by younger women. She also said she sees some "second-chapter gay men who had wives and families — they take away not one guy but two guys from the database.

Also, guys who want an Asian second wife: You come home, they cook you dinner, you get a blow job, and that's it.

Women have been falsely conditioned and removed from their own power and pleasure.

If they want to have a relationship, they need to become the kind of person who can attract the person they're looking for.

And if a guy is in his 40s and not married, it's a flag." Gulp. "The odds work in their favor in a way they didn't when they were in their 20s.

My ex-husband has a much bigger pool than I do: He can date a woman in her 20s or 30s who wants to have another child; I don't want to have a baby now.

Proximity is key to finding someone who is in your own city to make a match with.