2009) which is devoted to singles who are sober and practicing the principles of a 12Step Program.

It is actually posted on the site, “It is suggested by Alcoholics Anonymous and other 12 Step Programs that their members hold off one year before dating or getting involved in romantic relationships.” The main reason for that is relationships are the number one reason that members “go back out” – a term frequently used for “relapsing”.

Relationships of any kind (Husband/Wife, Mother/Son, Friendships, etc.) can attribute to members relapsing however it is usually the relationships involving dating and yes, sexual relationships that attribute the most to members going “back out”.

And yes there are quite a variety of dating websites to help you through the process of finding “your perfect match”.

But, when you add into the mix the fact that you are now living a sober lifestyle and hoping to find a partner who lives the same lifestyle, as well as with similar interests to yourself, where do you go?

Advance quite a few years later and having realized that my three previous sober dating websites are devoted mostly to sober singles living in and practicing the principles of 12 Step Programs, I came to realize that all singles living sober are not all members of 12 Step Programs but just choose to live a sober lifestyle, for whatever reason – whether it’s just to live a healthier lifestyle or they realize they have a drinking or drug problem and are able to stop on their own without the assistance of a 12 Step Program.

There was one site I located for dating sober but it was not a functioning site – I could never get the search feature to function and there were other bugs that made the site not very “user-friendly”.

The Quick search also allows you to search within a certain mile radius (of your choosing) to your own zip code.

Then you have the “Advanced” search feature which enables you to narrow down you selection right down to the height, body style, hair and eye color and lifestyle interests about how you like to spend your free time, i.e.

So I started online dating back in 1998 when everybody told me “You’re crazy and going to get killed”. I always considered myself “relationship challenged” and that was when I was still drinking.

Maybe that was one of the problems; in fact most likely it was the main problem.

So in my opinion and having been not only involved in this industry for almost ten years but having been the “pioneer” in this industry, that particular site is basically useless to me as a member.