"You have to decide which you want more: a guy who's committed or this guy, even if he won't ever be," Trespicio says.

Spending Saturday morning in the soup kitchen or helping an elderly person carry his groceries may be all it takes to have him calling you girlfriend.

Check out a craft beer festival, see a local band at some hole-in-the-wall, or challenge him to a mountain bike race.

A new adventure can fortify your relationship since it gives you shared memories to reminiscence about later, and that stronger bond will increase the likelihood he'll want to keep seeing you, exclusively.

Make an effort to do these things on a regular basis, but also make sure you're showing your selfless side when you're with him.

When you're a kind and gracious person, men (and women) are more likely to want to be around you—both consciously Think beyond dinner and after-drinks for your next date.

This helps him to realize that your time is valuable and that he'll have to go out of his way to see you. "Don't move dates around too much—that can get frustrating for a guy who also has a busy schedule like you," Trespicio says.

It's easy to let parts of yourself go when you meet someone you think is the man of your dreams. "Trying to be someone you're not is so transparent to a guy," Kelman says.

You think you desire something serious with this particular guy—but before you do anything else, be sure. Bottom line: Be in a relationship where you feel good when you're without him, but you feel even better with him. 1 piece of advice is to never to bring up the "What are we? "It's like going to a party, turning off the music, turning on the lights, and asking, 'Are we all having a good time here? "A good relationship is built on momentum, and putting a stop to the fun to 'check in' is a surefire way to kill the romance."Let things progress naturally and look at the evidence: Does he try to see you whenever he's free?

Step back and ask yourself the following questions, Trespicio suggests: Do I have fun with him? Does he seem genuinely interested in what you have to say? These are likely signs he's in it for real, so enjoy being with him and relax about making things "official." "Men who are wary of commitment want to feel like You don't have to stay in the dark forever, though.

As a bonus, the dates he comes up with will give you some insight into how he feels.