Now hold your horses for just a second here and let me tell you my story.

When I was diagnosed I was 19 and my biggest dream was to get married and have kids.

I dated some here and there but it was never the right guy, and either way, I was always so nervous to bring up my diagnosis.

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You are making yourself very vulnerable after spending all your resources building yourself back up. Having MS doesn’t matter to them, but when you’re dating, the reality of my MS and the implications it will have on the relationship are as invisible as my symptoms.

I can’t afford to give my heart to someone that will check out once they realize the reality of being with someone with multiple sclerosis. I may not always be able to be there when you want me to, and that hurts me as much as it does you.

So many of us are not diagnosed with our disease until we have established lives, spouses, kids, careers, etc.

There is a built in support network when you have these things, and so something like dating seems trivial to people in this situation.

Three and a half years later we are married and planning a family.

Turns’ out, being open about my diagnosis was the smartest thing I did in dating, because the right guy (or gal) won’t even miss a step.

Ok Cupid is free to join, free to search, and free to message.

To so many folks diagnosed with a chronic illness, dating never even comes into play.

I can get through the preliminary introductions with limited exertion.

For someone with fatigue, online dating ended up being the most appealing option.

No matter how resilient I have become, I still can’t help but feel like I don’t want to go through that again. After giving myself a pep talk I decided to join a paid dating site, and this turned out to be a really positive experience.