Some people like this sort of thing from a total stranger so leave them to respond.

No, real players are skilled at their game, they are experienced hunters looking for their next victim.

The woman – whom WNDU is calling “Tonya” for purposes of the story – said “It got pretty intense fairly quickly.

He lost his tools and needed money to rent them, he needed funds to pay his staff and enough to pay hospital bills after he supposedly had a stroke."It's almost like you know something is coming, but you're in so, so far. The two arranged to meet at the South Bend airport twice. Four months and thousands of dollars later, Tonya had had enough and told John she couldn't give him any more money."I had sent this man a total of almost $150,000 by this time."Unfortunately, stories like “Tonya's” are not rare at all.

Last January we ran an article about some then-recent online dating scams, the same basic story only with slightly different details: victim enrolls in online dating site; meets a man with whom she exchanges frequent phone calls and online chats, although they never actually met face to face; the man claims to be in love and then starts citing sob stories which can only be alleviated if the woman sends money. Not currently in the US (and thus conveniently unavailable for face-to-face meetups)? “Waiting for a huge check” – well, John's requests for loans to pay for alleged business trips, or manage payroll at the company he allegedly owns, sort of falls into that category.

They will send you a message saying they like your profile photo and asking if you fancy meeting up for a hot night or weekend.

These people don’t trouble me at all as 99 times out of 100 they accept no for an answer.

The man introduced himself as “John Hagen,” supposedly an engineer from nearby South Bend.

They spent several weeks sharing phone calls, text messages and email chats, but never actually met face-to-face.Just to give you an idea of how sick and twisted these people can be, a few years ago when I first joined a dating site I immediately received a message from a lady which said “just to warn you, as you are definately his type, this guy “username” is a player on this site.After he had finished with me recently he actually sent a critique with an overall score out of 10 and a list of ladies on the same site, along with their scores, to make comparisons with.A simple reply saying “sorry that’s not what I am looking for” results in never hearing from them again or a polite reply saying ” thanks for the reply and I hope you find what you are looking for”.These people I can respect, I may not wish to live their lifestyle but they are honest, polite and genuine. These are the guys and girls that send you sexually explicit, rather nauseating first messages, including their instant messaging details so you can have cyber sex or an unsolicited message saying “liked your profile, blah blah blah, I have attached a photo of myself.Modern times now see an increasing number of female players in a game that was traditionally thought of as exclusively male.