We have always been very clear with each other about not wanting anything more than great sex together. Only 3 or 4 out of a hundred men even make the first cut with me.

When we are together, we’re together and when we are not, we’re not. I delete great men every day just because they don’t know what I need to hear to say Yes.

On Valentine’s Day he found me alone in the office and made a move. He ran his fingers through my hair and said, “I’ll be right back.”I still shiver thinking about how good it felt to have his hands in my hair that first time. I was so ready and hungry for his touch at this point, there was absolutely no resistance.

By this time we had several flirty encounters and I was definitely attracted to him. Like I said, no one had touched me like that in many years. Being at work, there was no way to act on the feelings so nothing happened physically between us for a long time.

Beat the competition out there and find yourself a lovely lady to tease and please.1) Flirt Flirting is a lost art.

Tease her and let her know you are interested but do not, I repeat, do NOT, use any sex talk or innuendo for the first several text messages.

There is a woman inside that body you are horny for. It feels amazing to have a man’s hands on my body with fabric in between. She writes a column for Your and gives helpful tips on her websites, Cougar Cub and Breakup She teaches that there is a little bit of sweet in every breakup and that when you find, accept and finally celebrate the end of a relationship, attracting true love is possible.

If you can make it a point to get to that woman inside you may just open a sexual dynamo. Rather than trying to reach in and take her clothes off or get your hands under to the skin beneath, touch her as if she was naked. This kind of making out can happen in the back of a car or in a theater….stolen kisses in public places are intoxicating. Catherine is also Editor in Chief at Angels Fantasyland.com, Erotic Romance Writer’s Network, where men co-write erotica with female writers.

Do this as soon as possible so you can see if there is any chemistry there.

Be sure to buy her coffee (Dude, don’t let her buy her own coffee!! Be bold and tell her you want to see her again.4) Yellow Blinking Light: Slow Down Curves Ahead Your Cougar will probably give you a sign when she is ready to get physical. Forever for awhile, can you, a ready, willing and able young guy, step in and be a friend with benefits without getting hurt?

“You are not.”“I was trying to pick the oldest age you might believe so you wouldn’t think I was too young,” he laughed back.“Ok,” he said, “I’m 44.”By this point this very younger man had been flirting with me for several weeks.