At midnight, the suitor goes beneath the nipa hut, a house that is elevated by bamboo poles, then prickles the admired woman by using a pointed object.

Once the prickling caught the attention of the sleeping lady, the couple would be conversing in whispers.

Although having a series of friendly dates is the normal starting point in the Filipino way of courting, this may also begin through the process of "teasing", a process of "pairing off" a potential teenage or adult couple.

The teasing is done by peers or friends of the couple being matched.

It is within this stage where the couple engages in a series of group dates, chaperoned dates, The couple later on decides to come out into the open and reveals the status of their relationship to family members, relatives, and friends.

The serious suitor or boyfriend visits the family of the woman he admires/courts or girlfriend in order to formally introduce himself, particularly to the lady's parents.

The males visit the females in the olog – the "betrothal house" – to sing romantic songs.

The females reply to these songs also through singing.

Apart from presents, the Cebuano version of the pamamanhikan includes bringing in musicians.

Apart from the general background explained above, there are other similar and unique courting practices adhered to by Filipinos in other different regions of the Philippine archipelago.

The ongoing courtship ritual is overseen by a married elder or a childless widow who keeps the parents of the participating males and females well informed of the progress of the courtship process.