i need to make sure him is the right man , and we can live happy and last a lifetime.i should be responsible for myself and my life. That is a really short time to know some one then get married.They did not even have time to get to know each other people change drastically over a period of time.

I would say, that many don't though, and I'd be a bit concerned.

The biggest problem is that short courtships tend to result in character flaws and marriage wrecking habits popping out of no where, because you didn't have time to discover them.

I personally won't ever 'get married' in the manner that others are always talking about.

But, I don't think it is wrong to get into a serious relationship with someone that soon.i met my husband shorter than 3 months and we've been married since 2003. however my husband can stand on his own and we've been really a family on our own ever since. am a psychology graduate and this is one more proof that birds of the same feather flock together rather than opposites attract.

The Frisky: 30 things every woman should quit doing by 30 I don't want to sound cynical or jaded.

I totally believe in love for myself and my friends, but what I believe in more is that it takes a really long time to get to know someone and it's a complicated process.They need to learn these things together for a stable relationship.If they are already very mature and good on their own too feet they are more likely to focus on the fact that they don't need eachother and are more likely to break it off.Whirlwind romances were all the rage for me in 1997, but I'm older and wiser now ... The first three months of knowing someone is a time of illusions. You need those three months to gather the data you need to decide if you want this person in your life for the next three months.Instead of seeing the person objectively, you see them for who you want them to be. The Frisky: 10 best tips for dating online With all the disappointments that can come along with dating, I say why bother getting yourself in a tizzy about someone who could be a Russian spy?May be they think themselves are the best people for each other.