But you can smaller than two million and still be a big number.

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So far as I know, there remains no such thing as a spanking-specific dating site (paid or free) anywhere on the internet.

However, that means that the best alternative for lonely spankos is to dip into the biggest deepest pool of kinky daters available, which has for a very long time been the members at

See Also: This guide to BDSM dating sites bills itself as the “best BDSM dating sites on the web”, and from the limited perspective of our spanking kink, I’m inclined to agree with it, for the sole reason that their top pick and my top pick are the same, as I’ll explain below.

Reviews are offered for twelve BDSM dating sites, though some of the sites are actually rather more than that; Fet Life, for instance, will be known to most of you as a place where kinky hookups are possible, but also as a full-service (if quirky) kinky social-media site.

This guides says “is designed to cater to those with niche fetishes and fantasies that are decidedly alternative” and that’s always been the case for those in the spanko community.

Should we genuinely believe that they have 2,000,000 plus actual active members, as they’ll tell you when you land on their front page?

There even used to be a site on the review list that was strictly for finding kinky play partners who were also filthy rich, but that site’s defunct now. Sadly, what’s not to be found on the list is a site that focuses purely on the spanking kink.

Longtime readers will remember that my Bethie had an explosive “success” years ago with a free site that offered spanking-only dating classifieds.

If you do meet someone online, eventually you will probably want to meet her in person, but hopefully, by that time you will have emailed and talked to her on the phone enough that a face-to-face encounter won’t scare you.

Another great way to meet lesbians is to get involved with activities that interest you.

If you are shy, don’t have your friends “set you up,” rather, have them invite you over for dinner, to a movie or some other social activity you might enjoy with one or two single friends. If you're older and looking for a partner, it may feel like you're under a deadline to find "the one." Be careful not to come off as sounding desperate or needy as that will either scare women away or attract those who wish to take advantage of you.