(Some folks, of course, have no interest in one-night stands.) Your trauma left you with this added burden, SCARED, and I don't want to minimize your legitimate frustration or your anger.

It sucks, and I fucking hate the people who victimized you.

Upset Girl Hopes Relationship Survives Snooping is always wrong, of course, except when the snooper discovers something they had a right to know. (Well, almost anything: No poop, no animals, no minors.) HUMP!

Even thinking about going home with someone causes me to panic. But now that I'm single, it seems like this big, scary thing.

Is it possible to get laid without feeling freaked out?

You've probably thought to yourself, "But everyone else is just jumping into bed with strangers and having amazing sexual experiences!

" And while it is true that many people are capable of doing just that, at least as many or more are incapable of having impulsive one-night stands because they too have a history of trauma, or because they have other psychological, physical, or logistical issues that make one-night stands impossible.

Sexual Comfort And Reassurance Eludes Dame It is possible for you to get laid without feeling freaked out.

The answer—how you go home with someone without panicking—is so obvious, SCARED, that I'm guessing your therapist has already suggested it: Have sex with someone you know and trust.

You shouldn't want to be with a dishonest, moralizing bigot, DES, so the fact that this particular dishonest, moralizing bigot is incapable of hiding her truly repulsive feelings isn't a reason to consider seeing her.

Not being able to mask hateful feelings isn't a redeeming quality—it's the opposite.

I have been seeing a great therapist for the last five years, and I am processing things and feeling better than I ever have.