I started thinking about the media and asking myself what qualities I was actually attracted to in a man, specifically my boyfriend, versus what qualities I'd been taught to find attractive.Part of me used to envy how soft, straight, and blond his hair was.

We are all members of this collective community living on Earth, and we all need to start being honest with ourselves.

What does it mean to be uncomfortable about interracial dating in 2014? Why are so many people advocating a "stay with your own race" mentality?

I went to a predominantly white high school where I was one of maybe five black kids.

I grew up thinking that because I looked different, I somehow wasn't good enough.

I was in a new city and in a completely new situation.

I expected things to be similar to the way they were in high school.

While scrolling through my Facebook newsfeed, I came across a link to a Gawker article that one of my friends reposted.

In an essay entitled "The Reality of Dating White Women When You're Black," writer Ernest Baker tackles big topics like Eurocentric beauty standards, the taboo aspect of interracial relationships, and why he dates white women, among others: Why do I date white women?

I had dated a few guys before, all assholes, and I didn’t think many people would show interest in me.