Look, I get it: you’ve been getting Oompa Loompa jokes since forever.You’ve been called midget, Tiny Tim, Grumpy and all the other names.

A shitty attitude, whether angry and aggressive or defeated and negative, will nuke any chance of sex or love faster than telling them that you eat live puppies. A short man with confidence is far more attractive than a tall guy without it.

The attitude that your height is a defect and nobody could possibly love a short man is attraction poison. Yes, you may have to fake it for a while as you unlearn the bullshit that’s been shredding your ego.

If you’re not 6 feet tall or taller, then you may as well just resign yourself to a sexless life of Napoleon jokes.

Of course, short is relative; what we consider “average” height varies depending on geographic locale and someone who’s 5’6″ would consider someone who’s 5’9″ (the average for American men) to be lucky.

The trick is understanding how to make height less of an issue.

Seem like a tall order One of the worst things that guys can do to themselves is to get defensive about being short.

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They’re the ones who stand out in people’s memories, who can command attention (and affection) with seeming ease.