As it’s Valentine’s Day week, it only feels right to delve into the steamy, thorny topic of relationships and money!! Yes indeed, I specialize in bringing up THE MOST controversial issues and then combining them all into one post. Life is not all about money, but life is largely facilitated and made possible through judicious use of money.

When we set longterm life goals, such a buying a house, or going on vacation, or moving to a new town, or having children, or pursuing a career we’re passionate about, we’re really setting goals for how we want to use our money.

What’s your biggest regret that you have in your life so far?

What’s the one movie you love more than any other movie? If you could only eat one food for the rest of your life, what would it be? What’s the funniest thing that’s ever happened to you?

From Tinder to Ok Cupid to Grindr, I even formed a sort of obsession at some point.

You have to admit it's fun; the fact that you are, for once, allowed to judge people by their looks or your shallow first impressions is exhilarating.

I want to note here that I’m not necessarily talking about combining finances with your partner/spouse–plenty of couples are very happy to keep ’em separated. How your bank accounts shake out is merely the technical, spreadsheet-y (aka the easy, math-based) side of your money.

The core challenge–the cause of all those divorces, ruptures, and resentments–is how we our money. Discussing money should be part of your normal, routine conversations as a couple.

If you didn’t have to worry about money or a job, where would you live in the world? What was the last book that you got so absorbed in that you couldn’t put it down?

You only get 3 words to describe yourself – what are they? Which is better to listen to – your heart or your brain?

Would you tell your partner you love them only at tax time or only after you’ve over-drafted your account? It doesn’t have to be a mega, formal, spreadsheet-backed discussion every week, but checking in about where you are with your goals and your projections is a must.

If you feel like you need to start at the very, very beginning with your partner, sign-up to take my free Uber Frugal Month Challenge together.

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