It’s frustrating and embarrassing for me that I feel so lost as to how to bring this up.

I know there’s no one-size-fits-all approach, but do you have any good scripts for having this kind of conversation?

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I’m really struggling to find the right words to initiate this conversation, because everything that pops into my head has strong overtones of “PLEASE LOVE ME FOREVER” and “I’m putting all my hopes and dreams on you despite only having known you for 10 weeks or so”…

and those are NOT the kinds of conversations I want to have.

He responded that it didn’t matter because I must like him since I’m hanging out with him.

He also said he hasn’t gotten this far with a date in a long time, and he has “reasons” for being so awkward. The real problem is that all this talk about being awkward makes me feel extremely angry and panicked.

He stares at me a lot when we are together and it makes me feel uncomfortable, like he is waiting to kiss me instead of enjoying time hanging out together.

We already had a talk about where things are going, and I told him his nervousness was making me feel uncomfortable and I wanted him to relax.They’re definitely not representative of how I actually feel – it’s just that my anxious-attachment mechanism kicks into overdrive at the very thought of addressing it and everything starts to feel like much higher stakes than it really is.I did some googling on “How to have a DTR conversation” or similar, and Captain, there is a universe of terrible advice out there.I’ve been dating a person for almost 3 months, and he is terrific and lovely. I know we’re both currently not seeing anyone else.My general impression is that he’s interested in a relationship, but ‘impressions’ are not hard evidence and I just want to address it explicitly without my inner FEELINGS-VORTEX getting in the way.And, finally, the “I am really a nice guy” act sends up a big red flag for me.