When Chris Christie – a politician known for screaming at his constituents and performing petty acts of political retribution against his foes – was facing a new scandal over allegations that he directed his staff to shut down a section of the George Washington Bridge, Fox anchor Brit Hume lamented that Christie was just too “masculine and muscular” for our “feminized atmosphere” and that he’s being unfairly maligned for being a “guy’s guy”.

on-screen meltdowns at his guests; hardly an episode goes by where O’Reilly doesn’t try to shout somebody down (he’s especially fond of doing this to women) for daring to disagree with him, flailing his arms and frothing at the mouth like a baboon performing a threat display.

But at the same time, much of the obsession with masculinity is the root cause of so many problems men face, not just with dating but in their lives as a whole. I just don’t have whatever internal doohickey that makes me go nuts over the idea of competitive team sports.

I’m about to go into a digression here; stick with me, this will all make sense in a moment. I can get into boxing and mixed martial arts to a limited extent, because I’ve studied them and participated in tournaments, and I enjoy the artistry of pro-wrestling when I happen to watch it.

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Geeks – who are generally (but not always) more cerebral and usually more passive – are “beta”.

We are, so the theory goes, lesser, doomed to be ignored by women and laughed at by society because hey, geeks aren’t Except those jocks aren’t just trashing nerds for being betas, they’re just as often trashing their fellow jocks – guys who are just as athletic, just as “alpha”, supposedly, who spend their time destroying their bodies in the name of their team – for being “pussies” who need to “man up”…I spend a lot of time thinking about masculinity and what it means to be a man.It’s a natural consequence of the job, to be honest; a lot of dating is caught up in the ideas of traditional gender roles, of the man as aggressor and female as receiver, of male and female sexual roles and attitudes and so on.But team sports like hockey, football, soccer or baseball just leave me cold. That jock/nerd divide, however, also depends heavily on ideas of masculinity; jocks are seen as inherently more masculine than geeks because of the emphasis on athleticism and aggressive attitudes and forceful behavior.Jocks, we are told, are “alpha males”, the dominant of the pack.Moreover, men whose masculine identity was threatened were found to feel more guilty, ashamed and – critically – writes something vaguely critical about men or masculinity, the reflexive response is almost always for men to lash out.