Of course, some of it has its roots in the usual stereotypes — stereotypes in the Western World.

According to Sheridan Prasso’s book, The Asian Mystique: Dragon Ladies, Geisha Girls, & Our Fantasies of the Exotic Orient, Asian men in general have long been losers in the world of mainstream American media: If there are some admirable aspects of the portrayals of Asian women in Hollywood and on TV, it’s hard to say the same of the portrayals of Asian men.

Not because he’s a Chinese man, or because our relationship is “unique” or different. @Jocelyn Marring younger woman is not so much a pressure.

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There are hardly enough books depicting foreign women with Chinese boyfriends or husbands. When you have a Chinese husband or boyfriend, sometimes you feel as if you belong to a lonely club. One of my dearest e-mail friends, a woman from Germany, once found me on the net because she had a — then — Chinese boyfriend and yearned to find someone to share her experience with.

Off the top of my head, I can think of Rachel De Woskin’s Foreign Babes in Beijing: Behind the Scenes of a New China and Repeat After Me: A Novel, Nicole Mones’ Lost in Translation, and Pearl S. So I began to wonder — why are there so few Chinese guys and foreign girls becoming couples?

It’s true — the sight of a foreign woman and Chinese boyfriend or Chinese husband is much rarer than its counterpart, the foreign man and Chinese woman.

If you go to any major city in China, you will invariably run into the foreign man-Chinese woman pairings in any major tourist or shopping destination; not so with foreign women and Chinese men.

I rarely see two divorced partners enter into new relationship with kids from previous marriage in China. Reply @askdsk, thanks for your perspective, which is totally valid — so I could be wrong!

But I have heard of and seen divorced partners entering into a new relationship w/ kids from a previous marriage, so it isn’t impossible.

Are you planning a trip to one of the most lovely countries in Asia?

Or maybe you are going right now to make a business trip to Kuala Lumpur?

Fortunately, their ideas changed when they met me in person!