Unfortunately, men and women are wired differently. Not only are we different because of our genders, but we’re different because each person’s past experience helps mold their expectations and each person’s past experience is different. You’ll get a taste of what drives them, what gives their life meaning and significance. It’s always nice to know what the other person views as ideal in their eyes. Let them name the top three qualities that are non-negotiable. What have you learned from your past relationships?

It also gives you a view of what a future would look like with them. You can see if you’re looking for the same thing in terms of what makes a relationship good. Ideally, it would be nice to go through each of your past relationships, not to relive pain or point out the mistakes of your exes, but it’s important to know that the person you’re with has learned from their own mistakes and isn’t just moving forward ready to make the same repeat mistakes with you. These are deep questions that could lead to lengthy conversations, but it’s important to know what you’re getting into.

What would you like me to call you as, other than your name?

Social media redefined friendship, You Tube redefined learning and now dating apps are redefining, well, dating. Nothing is more annoying than always being optimistic … See, that's why you should be asking these questions.

Despite the clear ridiculousness of dating apps, there is one aspect that could be helpful in your actual dating life. When you get into your 20s, this question becomes more and more important.

After I had asked you out for the first time, was there any part of you that wanted to say no? When you have fantasies, who do you usually think of? Can you name three qualities that attracted you when you met me/got to know me? Which is your favourite movie of all time and favourite scene in it? Till now, what is the moment that you regret the most? Or would you keep it to yourself and observe from afar?

If you had a lot of money, where would we go on vacation? How do you feel if I walk into the bathroom when you are in the middle of using the facilities? Is it okay for one partner in a couple to take a vacation alone? Which three parts of my body are your personal favourites and why? If you meet someone that you love, would you confess to him/her? What place would you like to visit that you haven't been to yet? Would you consider yourself a morning person or a night person and why?

Yes, you can share each other’s different interests, but that’s why you need to ask this question, to see if you would enjoy adapting to their interests or if they would enjoy adapting to yours. You’d be surprised with the answers to this question.

As humans, we assume that people have the same expectations that we do. Here you get a taste of what motivates the other person. Do you see us together in another year, 3 years, 5 or so? If you have the chance, what would you probably say to your beloved one? If I don't express it to you, how do you know that I want to make love? Who is the dominant one in a relationship - the guy or girl? On which counts do you think you were totally wrong and on which were you right? Can you tell me something that you'd like to change in me? Apart from the obvious ones, which two body parts are most sensitive and responsive? If you could only achieve one thing in life what would it be? If your house was on fire and you could grab only 5 things before leaving, what would they be? If your friend was cheating on their lover, would you tell them to stop? When you first met me, what was the first thing that attracted you to me? Have you ever found yourself attracted to someone of the same sex? —————————————- Give the person time to think about these questions. Failed expectations are what causes a lot of disappointment.If you know what the other person expects and desires from the onset, you know if you’re able and/or willing to meet the other person’s needs and wants.They bring up the questions you don't think of asking, but should be. I can't tell you the number of times I've seen a relationship falter because the two people were on different pages in their lives. Especially for guys, do you really want to be sitting on the couch with your sobbing girlfriend pretending to care that she is depressed she'll never be as flawless as Beyoncé? Aggression can be a turn-on or a turn-off, depending on the person. I think this question goes back to neediness, jealousy and trust, among other key factors in a relationship.