Whether we want to admit it or not, children are going to experience instability as their parents go in search of romantic partners.

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How do we help kids through these transitions and avoid instability? Kristen Hadfield, a post-doctoral fellow I supervise at the Resilience Research Centre who has been doing research in the US, Ireland and Canada on mothers, stepparents and kids. First, parents are cycling in and out of romantic relationships at a higher rate than ever before.

All those online dating sites are doing what they were intended to do.

Lately, I’ve noticed a pattern of serial romantic relationships among friends who are dating online.

They meet, and a few months later, introduce their new partner to their kids.

When it works out, the kids benefit from having more adults in their lives.

But what happens, as so often does, when the relationship breaks down?

That seems to be the best time to share what’s happening. If you’re fortunate enough to go from dating to moving in together and forming a blended family, what role should the new stepparent play?

As I mentioned earlier, custodial parents often want the stepparent to be a real parent with responsibilities for the kids.

The problem, of course, is what to do after the relationship breaks up?