And, as with any strong elixir, the subliminal message reads: handle with care.Unless you left your ex for someone else, break-up usually means being single again.Feelings of abandonment or rejection can manifest themselves in a number of ways.

It's a way of remaining in the safe, secure sexual environment we know and delaying the inevitable plunge into the unknown singles market.

Therapists, however, are quick to point out that it "ain't over 'till it's over." In other words, while sex with your ex can provide a wonderful release, you need to let go sexually in order to fully heal, grow, and move on to a new life.

If you have unresolved hurt or anger, these are going to affect your sexuality and your ability to become involved in a fulfilling manner.

Post-divorce sex can either salt the existing wounds or be a loving, satisfying experience; it depends on where you are on your "healing curve." Being dumped can bring on low self-esteem, feelings of personal failure, rejection, and abandonment.

"She needs to feel love and acclamation, and so she'll have sex with the guy who gives her attention and fulfills her immediate need. It can also be a way of retaliating from being in a relationship where she felt impotent, neglected, or rejected." Of course, men can end up on this emotional rollercoaster, too.

Solomon-Ament says that this is really a form of self-sabotage: that by using casual sex specifically to deal with unresolved issues, you're only effecting a temporary cure that carries one hell of an emotional hang-over – not to mention the physical dangers of having sex with someone you don't know well."It's a way to reassure themselves that they're still desirable," she says."Others are very cautious: they want to protect themselves from ever being hurt again.Alternatively, you could use your sexuality as a vehicle to act out your anger and to regain a sense of control, or as an attention-getting device, attempting to repair your damaged self-esteem.A woman who has been left by her spouse often loses much of her self-confidence and self-esteem, notes Toronto-based individual and marital therapist Karen Solomon-Ament.And these will have a tremendous impact on how you perceive your sexual attractiveness and the way you interact sexually.