Dating and courtship in modern society
A distinction between dating and courtship is this: a person would never enter into a courtship with someone whom they would not consider marrying; yet a person will often enter a dating relationship with someone to whom they are attracted while knowing in their gut that they would never want to marry that person.The reason this happens is because dating does not imply responsibility for the other person.
How can a relationship that is called “love” be dictated and dominated by selfish motives? We must examine our understanding of love, as Christ modelled it for us, and live it out accordingly.
Chastity is the way to put love into practice in our relationships both before marriage and after marriage.
There is something very gratifying in being identified as someone’s boyfriend or girlfriend. Yet that is a false identity, founded on a false sense of security and rooted in insecurity in your own worth as a person.
Your value as a person comes from your dignity as a child of God!
Pursuing physical intimacy outside of marriage is done for self-gratifying reasons.
The opposite of love is not hate, it is selfishness.
Sometimes this is not achievable, due to distance from home or perhaps strained relationships.
In that case a couple should seek out at least one mentoring couple who they trust.
Courtship can take a variety of forms but there are essential elements that need to be considered in establishing guidelines for a young couple.