Dating an only child male
When I write dating tips and relationship advice for a new mode, I am writing to a female audience.
I don’t understand the need to communicate so often, especially with someone I’m just getting to know.
I finally told him that it’s too much and asked if we can ease on the communication.
So I want you to know that I am putting this out there to help and inspire everyone to have more dating success, to point fingers. ” and pretty much any sentence that begins with ‘why didn’t you,’ it’s like nails on a chalkboard.
I can tell you from a guy’s perspective that when a woman says things like: “Why didn’t you call? Those kinds of statements will immediately put a guy on the defensive rather than motivating him to change and he’ll probably withdraw emotionally as a result… I would say the core reason of this is that it attacks a guy’s sense of freedom and feeling of acknowledgment. Well, when a woman starts down this chain of “Why didn’t you…” it feels to a guy as if she isn’t noticing all of the other things he is doing for a relationship. It’s perfectly normal and healthy to want a relationship with all the good qualities: connection, chemistry, understanding, intimacy, attentiveness and on and on.
He took it the wrong way and was hurt by it, and said he just likes me a lot and hasn’t met anyone he likes in a while.
He said he’s a relationship kind of guy and doesn’t just date around or talk to women if he doesn’t see a relationship in the future, and he said he thought we were heading in that direction, uhh except we’d never had a conversation about that. That freaked me out and I told him that it wasn’t working for me and I didn’t speak to him for about a week, but I felt that I was too hasty and decided to give it another go.The time and energy wasted on wanting validation from others, perhaps, should be spent living our lives and pursuing personal endeavors that establish a solid foundation and personal happiness that is not contingent upon another’s actions or reactions. I was seeing this guy for about 9mnths and in the beginning it was wonderful.then i wanted to see him more i started complaining he wasn’t making time for me. then i tried the 30 day NC 2 weeks ago and broke it twice.I constantly called and texted Saying give me my things i don’t understand why you not talking to me. he said he needed me and missed me then nothing again.I told him I’m letting go and moving on and deleting his number.We used to skype every day after I came home from work. One day he just said he is going to see his sister. But the next day he was not going anywhere but we did not skype at all. But then every other following day he would just want to skype really later in the day (like 8pm, even on weekend ) and then few days later not at all. And I miss him, I miss seeing him and hearing his voice. And that I would like to play some game with him or anything he wants.