Dating after breast cancer surgery
However, something I don't talk much about is the challenges of being a single woman in the dating world after having major reconstructive surgery on my breasts.
I know this is an issue for many breast cancer survivors.
" If all someone sees when they look at you are your breasts, they are missing out on so much and all you're missing out on is a shallow fool -- and those are a dime a dozen.
Most women with breast cancer have some type of surgery as part of their treatment.
There are different types of breast surgery, and it may be done for different reasons, depending on the situation.
For example, surgery may be done to: Your doctor may recommend a certain operation based on your breast cancer features and your medical history, or you may have a choice about which type to have.
If you are having a lumpectomy with no lymph node dissection, it's likely that your surgery will be done on an outpatient basis.
This means that you can go home on the same day you have your surgery.
Many of us are young, single and have our whole lives ahead of us -- dating, sex and love should not be off the table.
Granted, there is a time and a place for everything, but sometimes you just meet someone or want to continue to look for someone special if that was something you were interested in before you got sick.
I mentioned that my breasts are currently nipple-less, right? I would think that may be a little off-putting to some but I've been very honest with people I date. I still love and accept myself fully and if someone can too, great!
I am about two-thirds of the way through the process of my reconstruction, so I still have some work to be done. If they can't, that's a shame, because they are really missing out.
Once the dust settles and you realize that you have survived and you have a new body, it can be very challenging to feel comfortable with your body image.