But it's an awkward tightrope to navigate if one person is footing the bills, paying for vacations and acting as the de facto funder for nightlife activities.That strain can intensify for students facing For Haley, 26, her boyfriend's graduate schooling has actually made her the less financially stable one.The enormous time and financial strain of grad school is pushing away images of rings and strollers for lit reviews and conferences."It's always loomed over us," said Haley, who knew about Eric's medical school plan for the day they met. The couple talked briefly about moving to the West Coast, where Todd might have more job opportunities (and a change of scenery), he told But plenty of real-life couples find that weathering the academic storm takes what they have to the next — very adult — level.

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As any student knows, attending grad school and working a day job (even a demanding one) just aren't the same.

Many students spending two to three times the amount of hours studying than they do in class, which doesn't include hours spent working as teaching assistants, research assistants, fellows and externs.

"It liquefies the grey matter involved in attention — like the brain-on-drugs egg in those commercials from the Reagan administration."Sadie, who's getting her doctorate in clinical psychology, confirms the reality.

"My relationship went through a lot thanks to [being] long-distance in college, but grad school is another level," she said.

The only (but major) negative consequence for the job is that if your relationship gets serious, you'll get a two-body problem to solve.

I've been trying to solve mine since 1995 with no really satisfactory results (at best I could rank the arrangements I had as "tolerable"). Concerning written rules you need to find out if any exist in your department, university etc.

Not the same research group, but closely related topics anyway.

We're both happy with it, and I don't think there's anything wrong with it, but I am worried about possible negative consequences on the job.

Otherwise, as Peter Jansson said, relationships between graduate students are very common and aren't likely to cause academic concern. So, it is perfectly fine to be in the same research group, the same class, etc., as long as it is not a direct "teacher-student" relationship.

In the latter case just check what the university rules are.

Add into that the time spent traveling (hello, business school) and in the lab (we see you, MD-Ph Ds).