One of my favorite things to do was to play with his hair.

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While scrolling through my Facebook newsfeed, I came across a link to a Gawker article that one of my friends reposted.

In an essay entitled "The Reality of Dating White Women When You're Black," writer Ernest Baker tackles big topics like Eurocentric beauty standards, the taboo aspect of interracial relationships, and why he dates white women, among others: Why do I date white women?

In fact, I completely forgot about it until a few responses started to pop up. But what about that 4 percent of blacks and 16 percent of whites?

It was Britni Danielle’s "Nobody Cares That You Date White Girls" piece for Clutch magazine that caused me to go back and reevaluate. Lots of people in this country would like to believe that race relations are swell, racism is dead, and everyone is happy. Image: Gallup There's a belief among some members of racial groups that one who dates outside of that race is disloyal, self-loathing, or has, for lack of a better word, been brainwashed. As author Lincoln Blades asserts in a piece at Uptown magazine, we need to promote an honest discussion about interracial relationships. It's hard to face the truth that educated and talented women like Mac Arthur Fellow Tiya Miles feel contempt towards black men who date white women.

I had dated a few guys before, all assholes, and I didn’t think many people would show interest in me.

I looked down at my fingertips, stained deep mocha from my foundation, and felt self-conscious.

But then something happened: people started talking to me, flirting even.

Once I escaped the small, isolated microcosm of Upstate New York, I met people who didn't think of me just based off of my skin color.

I was in a new city and in a completely new situation.

I expected things to be similar to the way they were in high school.

Still, it was always funny that my mother questioned why I kept dating white guys, especially because I was raised as one of only few people of color in my community.