So, whether or not you decide to call it “Christian Dating” is up to you. *For more practicals on healthy dating, order your copy of True Love Dates today! You may also recognize her voice from her 50 articles at Relevant Magazine!

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Let’s take the pressure off and see it as just that. Don’t take it too seriously: Now that we’ve put aside the concept of “Christian dating”, we should probably also put aside the notion that . If we only go on dates based on our perception that a person has to have the qualities of our life-long partner, very few people would ever actually go on a date.

It’s important to have an idea of what you’re looking for in a spouse, but let’s be honest- there’s very little that can be learned about someone outside a significant interaction of some sort.

So, I want to throw some thoughts and observations out there that I’ve found helpful in simplifying this topic and how to approach it as a Christian. And please…don’t find any assurance in the fact that this article starts with the number 7 (for you super-Christians out there, you know that the number 7 symbolizes perfection or completion in Scripture). The word Christian is not an adjective used to describe media, or clothing, or music- it’s a group of people.

That was pretty much a coincidence, and holds no value to the credibility of this post. People who are committed to living a life that is infused with God’s love.

When it comes to dating, it would do us well to see it as an avenue toward getting to know God’s people as we pursue God’s big picture for our lives.

Just like anything else we do in this life, dating is also a way that we can reflect Him to the people we come into contact with.

We’ve camped out on opposite sides of the playing field: kissing dating goodbye, and then wanting it back.

Is (insert name of your significant other) right for me? We’ve taken preferences, and claimed that they were “the godly way” to do things.

The “Christian culture” has done quite a number on this topic, hasn’t it? We’ve added a ton of rules, and sprinkled them with even more rules.

Trust me, there was time in my life when I was just as confused as anyone else (confused…and maybe even borderline relationship-cray-cray). And so I empathize with you, because part of the problem has nothing to do with you- and everything to do with the culture we’ve created around dating and relationships in general.

These people will have dates on a regular basis, and they may or may not be having sexual relations.