My boyfriend is best friends with his ex-girlfriend.

They dated for two and a half years, broke up 5 years ago, have many mutual friends.

They met in graduate school and went through some hard times together, so I understand why they stay friends. They talk on the phone 2-3 times a week, meet up for lunch/dinner.

You don’t have any leverage on a man until he loves you, and the more you pressure him to change, the less likely he’s going to be busting out the “L-Word” any time soon.

Usually, the person who got dumped is the one who still wanted to be in the relationship.

I have dated guys who were on civil terms with their exes and I was even friends with the exes, so I really don’t think I have jealousy or insecurity tendencies, it’s just that this situation makes me really uncomfortable.

–Irene Dear Irene, Your story reminded me of someone I know – a female friend who has a similar relationship with her ex-boyfriend.

They’re often better able to separate relationships into different components and can see things clearer in retrospect.

I have a number of girlfriends that I’m appalled that I ever dated, a handful of girlfriends who were wonderful whom I didn’t appreciate, and a few girlfriends that really, would have been better off as friends. If you’re a recent couple, you don’t really have a right to say anything about how he lives his life.

You won’t have to say anything at all to make it happen. As I’ve said many, many times before, it’s either full trust or no trust.

If you find you’re not getting your relationship needs met, you can leave. You’re getting yourself tied up in knots and it’s surely not serving your goal of maintaining a healthy relationship with your boyfriend. What do you think is going to lead to a better relationship.

I just think the whole situation is disrespectful to me and her behavior is very inappropriate.

He’s letting her do that to me and to our relationship.

This is a really juicy piece of gossip when you take it in context.