Many of the more conservative or evangelical Christian denominations, meanwhile, insist spouses convert or promise to bring their children up as Christians.

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"There are, of course, a whole range of Muslims and Christians.

Some groups are liberal about mixed marriages, others much more proprietorial.

For the most part, we ‘arrange’ ourselves with people that we meet at university, work, social events, online or through our own married friends. I didn’t accidentally use the word ‘interrogate’ there. My friends were amazed at what I knew within two weeks of meeting my husband. While we’re hanging out and getting to know each other, there are really strict rules. It’s to ensure that we’ve got our parents onside so that when things get serious (lol… The idea is to use strong negotiation skills to get our parents to agree before they meet the potential spouse. The groom tells his parents not to be freaks and they head over.

We tend to meet in public only – somewhere public enough that we’re not alone, but not public enough that a random nosy aunt can spot you and call your parents to tell them of your horrible indiscretions. When the families meet, there is the inevitable small talk.

Ultimately, we found a Muslim cleric who saw things the way we did.

The counsel he gave us was excellent, focusing as we did on what made us similar.

Basically, it’s just your parents introducing you to someone.

In other instances, arranged marriage refers to a situation where parents arrange the marriage of their (adult) children without their involvement. On the day that the groom and his entourage are coming, the bride’s house is filled with people frantically making the house spotless.

The couple meets at or just before the wedding and then they ride off into the night as a couple. That’s mostly because in our universe if you’re getting to know someone from the opposite sex, you’re doing it to determine whether you’re compatible enough to them. It means that the rules that Western culture imposes on a ‘first date’ are flipped on their heads. Meeting the parents It’s very important for Muslims to have their parents involved really early in this process. Once the couple thinks they’re ready to take things further, the family of the groom will visit the family of the bride to ask for her hand in marriage. Tea and coffee and snacks are prepared and all the fine china is brought out.