But I do know what it’s like to be the girl that is asked out by a wide variety of guys, in a wide variety of ways. He wasn’t a classically handsome man, but there was instant chemistry and I thought he was so cute.

When I went to leave the store, he stopped me and gave me one of the store business cards.

When Bumble was released in December 2014, it put women in the driver's seat: When you match, she has to initiate the conversation. Fourteen percent of the women polled said their biggest frustration is that men don't ask them anything.

I avoided picking up the phone for any local number I didn’t recognize.–Dex: This guy was my secret admirer. One day I received a note saying I had captured his attention during a conversation we’d recently had. He finally called me at the store a few months later, if I can remember correctly. Finally, one day, he said that if I wanted to see the new movie we’d been discussing (, it turns out), he’d love to tag along.

His approach creeped me out and I hated that I felt pressured to give him my digits. I probably would’ve gone out with Dex, but the guy took too long!

And if all you do is send dick pics or even ask seemingly innocent things like “Are you a good kisser? A better move: “Imagine you are walking up to a woman in a bar and saying hello,” Davis says. That's what you should say on an app.” And if you still haven’t figured out what to say in a bar, The advantage of an app over the bar is that you usually have more information to work off of. If you see she has a photo of herself in a race, ask about it: “I see you love running. ” Or if she mentions she loves sushi, say, “Tuna or California roll?

”“Find some connection point and ask her a question to get the conversation started,” Davis says, adding that two lines tends to be the best length for an opener.

Here’s the deal, guys: You can read all the dating and relationship advice you can find – and there’s a lot of good stuff out there – but there’s just one key piece of advice I have to share. So here is a quick history of how I met and was asked out by some of the fellas in my past and whether it worked or whether it failed. We dated for eight months and split up on good terms. He was just too late.–Ivan: Another guy I met in the store I worked at, Ivan is the guy I married.

And no, I don’t know what it’s like to be a guy looking for women to date. And what I learned:–John: When I met John, he was working in a shoe store and was just about the funniest man I’d ever known. We just had different goals.–Adam: I was in a bar when I met Adam. He came in the first weekend we’d opened a brand new location, and my friend Misti told me “that guy’s vibing you! But number of messages and days aside, “if you're into a woman and you've communicated a few times, ask her out! “If you do, she thinks, 'Great, he's actually going to pick a place instead of making me do it—that's amazing!'”If you're not sure what to plan, think back to your conversations or check her profile, Syrtash says.Sure, the process is simple: You swipe, you match, you message ... We asked 1,400 women: “What's the worst online dating mistake men make?” In their eyes, sexting too soon is by far the biggest offense, but it's not the only thing that can turn women off.Your conversation skills also need some work, and some of you just need to ask her out already!