You can learn more details on my thoughts on this service in my article on How e Harmony Works.No matter what service you choose, I hope my advice here will help you with your first messages.If you continue to struggle writing your first emails or struggle with getting responses with a service like this, trying a service like e Harmony might be helpful. e Harmony operates in a different way where they control much of the early communication for you.

This advice may still be helpful for sites such as e Harmony or Chemistry.com, however these services guide the communication and there is less “emailing” early on.

Writing the online dating first email is the area where I made the biggest mistakes for the longest period of time when I was dating online.

How important is it to write a good online dating first email?

The answer to that may seem obvious, but just in case it isn’t let me say: writing a great first message in online dating is critical to success or failure in your dating life.

Based on my experience, I think the above are good guidelines to improve your odds of getting the conversation going.

So what do you include in this short, introductory email?

I spent too much time blindly follow good-intentioned advice and not thinking for myself early on when dating online.

So better to listen to your gut and break any “rules” (such as keeping the email short) when you think it would work to your favor.

If you read my online dating guide you’ll know that my first 6 months or so I had very little success.