This may sound basic, but you would be surprised – and horrified- to know how many people do not adhere to this basic rule.

Light perfume or cologne is fine, but please don’t forget deodorant. You both made an effort to look nice, say something! Walk up to the door, converse with the person who opens it, and wait politely for your date. Guys, open and hold the door for your date, it’s courteous and respectful. In general, ladies precede men in the theatre, at a restaurant, at shul and most other places.

Either way, enjoy the experience and learn from each date how to be better at the next one. The opinions expressed at or through this site are the opinions of the individual author and may not reflect the opinions of

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It is fine to date other people at the same time until you have a clear understanding of your relationship, but it is best to discuss your intentions with sensitivity and patience so no one will be unnecessarily hurt. While dating can be tiring and stressful, try and look at it in a different way.

People are fascinating and can bring all sorts of positive encounters.

This may sound strange, but don’t argue or be overly assertive. Ask about the person’s likes and dislikes, interests, dreams, and aspirations.

Remember, dates are meant to see if there is potential to continue.

You are not marrying the person after the first date. In the end, you’ll get caught, and it’s definitely the wrong way to start a relationship. If there is a good reason why you cannot make the scheduled date, postpone rather than cancel. It shows a lack of respect for the other person and reflects poorly on you.

If there are subsequent dates, you can widen your inquiries and slowly share more personal information about yourself. Arrogance makes most people feel uncomfortable and isn’t a great way to get to know someone. RULE 6: Dress appropriately for the occasion — clean hair and clothes.

Plan the date so the two of you can best enjoy your time together.

There are many fun and creative ideas to get you off on the right foot.

Please’s and thank you’s go a long way, as does considering their feelings in all decisions and throughout the conversation.