We can enjoy the wisdom that comes from surviving an ever changing world.

You could find someone to sit across from at the breakfast table while reading your own newspapers, Kindles, novels, or whatever.

And proximity without talking is THE DREAM, you guys. And yes, dates are the necessary vehicle that will get you to this connection.

Companionship would be top of the list for many people over the age of 80.

Not just being in a crowd, but having someone who knows who we are and has the time to sit and listen.

Good health and good fortune determine the path that we take as we age.

If we are blessed with robust health and a supportive, loving family our path is very much easier.There’s a problem with the one-size-fits-all wisdom commonly intoned during dating discussions (“Just put yourself out there! After jumping through the hoops of answering questions such as “where are you from? ” one too many times, you start feeling that dates are no longer probable sources of a deep, meaningful relationship, but rather deep, dark pits of despair. You tend to be sucked of all your energy as if you’ve been set upon by a Harry Potter dementor. Don’t feel the need to go into some long, drawn-out explanation either.Because, as introverts, we often derive our energy from solitude and quiet contemplation in which to process life’s events, we have only so much social goodwill to go around. Just simply state that you need to reschedule, and offer an alternative date, time, and place. I’m going to pass along the best piece of advice my old therapist ever gave me.Let’s keep our discussions reflective, productive, and welcoming.Please follow our Community Guidelines and understand that we moderate comments and reserve the right to delete comments that don’t adhere to our guidelines. We are currently assessing methods for complying with the detailed requirements of GDPR.